What you don’t know can’t hurt you, right? Well, not so fast. In relationships, that saying has a funny way of backfiring, especially when what you’re hiding is the fact that you don’t actually own your house. Secrets in marriage can go from harmless to a full-on disaster real
full-on disaster real quick.
Whether it’s keeping quiet about how much you spend on shoes or “forgetting” to mention a tiny detail like renting your home, the truth always has a way of bubbling up. And when it does? Let’s just say it’s never pretty, especially when it involves real estate, a divorce, and a really confused ex-wife.
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Secrets always find a way to reach the surface, no matter how deep you try to bury them, especially if those secrets are about money or assets
One husband found himself in this situation when his wife assumed she was entitled to half of their apartment in the divorce, not knowing it was not really his
The man began renting the apartment as a university student and continued living there for years, as the place is great and the rent is a steal
The man met a woman who was in a big rush to get married, so they tied the knot soon after getting together, but their marriage quickly cooled off
The wife asked for half of the apartment in the divorce, but much to her surprise, the man revealed he never owned the place and just didn’t tell her about it
Our Redditor, we’ll just call him Jack, scored a sweet deal on an apartment back in his university days. The owner lived abroad and basically gave Jack the authorization to deal with everything, and he did. He got so comfy in that place, he practically started calling it his kingdom. Cheap rent, all the freedom—what more could a guy want? Everything was golden… until, of course, love waltzed into the picture, as it often does.
Fast forward a few years, and Jack met a woman who was sprinting toward the altar like she was in an Olympic competition. They tied the knot in record time, and things were going great, or at least it seemed so. But, it turns out, love wasn’t enough and their relationship quickly cooled off by a quite a few degrees, so Jack and his wife decided to get a divorce.
But there was one teeny-tiny detail Jack forgot to mention to his wife during their short-lived marriage. That fabulous two-bedroom apartment they were living in? Yeah… not his. It was a rental. You’d think this would have come up at some point, right? But, nope, nada! It never popped up, and Jack just rolled with it, probably thinking, why bother clarifying the situation.
Here’s where things get juicy. As divorce papers started flying, Jack was just about ready to wrap things up when he got an email that made him do a double take. His soon-to-be ex-wife had hired a real estate agent and forked over 500 euros to get the apartment valued. Why? Because she assumed she was entitled to half of the place in the divorce.
Jack, with what we can only imagine was a very awkward chuckle, explained that he doesn’t actually own the place, as it’s just a rental. And his wife’s reaction? Well, let’s just say she did not find it funny at all. She started screaming at Jack, accusing him of lying to her for years.
So, she decided she’d at least take the car. But guess what? The car isn’t theirs either! Turns out, that too was leased, and the real owner is the bank. Now that’s just pure comedy gold.
At this point, the wife was fuming, labeling him a liar and demanding he pay for her valuation, for an apartment he doesn’t even own, mind you. Jack, with the patience of a saint, replied, “I didn’t ask you to do that,” and watched the chaos unfold as she stormed out of his life, but made sure to inform all their mutual friends that he “lied” about the apartment the entire time they were married.
This sparked a group debate about whether Jack is actually an A-hole or not. Well, the Reddit community doesn’t seem to think so. Jack may have missed a few conversations with his wife during their marriage, but he’s just a guy who got used to calling his rented apartment “home” and didn’t think to bring it up.
But why didn’t his wife ever ask Jack if he owned the place? Assuming is dangerous territory, especially when it comes to finances. In reality, most couples don’t lay all their financial cards on the table, but some things probably deserve a mention.
So, what’s the takeaway here? Communication, people. Especially when it comes to the big stuff—like, oh, whether you actually own your house. Sure, Jack probably should’ve mentioned the whole “it’s a rental” thing, but does that make him an A-hole?
Well, while he didn’t technically lie to his wife, he did “forget” to tell her the truth. Lying by omission is that sneaky little trick of letting someone fill in the blanks and hoping they don’t realize the picture’s a little different. In relationships, those “forgotten” details can cause major trust issues once they come to light, turning what seemed like harmless silence into a full-blown mess.
What do you think of this story? Is Jack an A-hole for not telling his wife that the apartment they lived in was a rental? Let us know in the comments below.
Netizens say the man is not a jerk for not telling his wife he was renting the place, arguing that his wife should have asked more questions before assuming
